Recently I have seen far too many posts, blogs and tweets racing to the defense of stay at home moms. Let me start by saying that I have nothing against stay at home moms, home makers or anything similar. I think it’s great that you have chosen to focus your working energy into your home. What I do have a problem with is the constant griping about the lack of respect given to them by others. NEWS FLASH!!! No one gets the respect they deserve at work, NOBODY! I’m well respected at my job and people treat me fairly well but that doesn’t necessarily mean I get the respect I feel I deserve. Quite often when I solve a problem or offer up a brilliant solution the credit is given to someone else. Oh well, I gripe to my husband and friends sometimes incessantly and I move on. That’s part of being an adult, suck it up and go on to the next thing. It’s called work, we have a support group, we meet at the bar 😉
One more thing, being a stay at home mom does not make you a better mom than me!!! Whether you realize it or not your posts about the time you put in on your family does a lot to alienate those of us who have chosen to have both a career and a family. Okay, so if I added up all you do for work it would equal somewhere around 100 hours per week???? Well then how about this math. I do all of the same things! I do the laundry, cook the meals, I potty trained and taught kids to walk and now I make sure they get to school and do their homework. I comfort them when they cry I disagree with them when it’s needed. I protect them from bullies and other not-niceties and teach them how to be the two amazing people they are becoming. I also pack my husbands lunch for work and make sure he has a thermos of coffee and plenty of food to keep him through a twelve hour shift. I do all of these things because I love to it’s not my job, it’s my life and I wouldn’t change it.
So by current count, I’m a laundry, cook, psychologist, taxi cab, nutritionist, physical therapist, holistic healer (put some ice on it, you’re fine hahaha) and an Environmental infection Control Specialist for a cancer hospital. Which if I were to add it all up using that math is about 140 hours per week. Please feel free to commence with the back patting and what not. You won’t, know why???? I don’t need it and I don’t want it. My husband and kids adore me and my boss gives me about as much respect as she can muster and while it might be nice to hear it more often, I hear it enough. Perhaps the fact that they deal with all of my eccentricities is respect enough 😉
We all pick up our banner and go marching from time to time and that’s great, but be careful that when you’re goose stepping you don’t do it on someone else’s toes. Try to remember that you do what you do for you, as long you are happy and you give yourself respect that should be good. We all have struggles and if your biggest struggle is that your husband and society don’t bow down to kiss your feet because you mated all of the socks, by all accounts you have it pretty darn good.
One final thought, when your husband or significant other comes home from work, do you praise them??? I know I forget to at times 🙂